Melinda:
I think, last night, it was really funny, it was like ‘mood setting’
in a way.
’Cause he had Enya on, and as people call that ‘chick music’ [that is, ‘women’s’
music that young men may choose to play when entertaining women because they
think it is what women prefer] . . . and he was trying to produce a relaxed atmos-
phere and I think in a way it does promote physical, or just intimacy in general
because it’s just like certain music’s more calming and, I remember . . . I think
Stigma or Hyper came on and we were like, ‘No no no, we don’t want that!’ and
we tried to get this piece, like I had him play the First Night soundtrack, which I
love, and there’s like, a lov
e song I, there, that’s so beautiful,
but everything else is
like, ‘bu bu de bah’ [she sings here a triplet followed by a whole note the interval of
a fifth higher than the triplet figure] and I’m like, ‘No, no, this is not good’ but I
do, I think it was just very, it’s very calming, very intimacy . . .
Q. So it’s part of what creates an intimate atmosphere?
Melinda: Yeah, definitely. I think it’s . . . setting is very important, and music is
a very big part of that.
Q. Now, do you choose the music, also for those settings, or does he tend to
choose them?
Melinda: I think he originally chose them but then I said, um, we heard Enya
and then I was like, ‘All right, let’s change it’ and he was like, whatever I wanted,
he was just like ‘Sure’, so we both picked out some stuff. He’s got a fifteen million
CD changer. I’m like ‘I didn’t know they existed!’
Melinda’s account of how she and her ‘new person’ negotiated the
musical backdrop of their time together highlights not only her under-
standing of what is musically appropriate to the occasion, but also her
apparent equality, perhaps even leading role, in articulating the aesthetic
parameters of the occasion, that is, for specifying that occasion’s scenic
specificity. Certainly, her friend, who was also her host (they were in his
room, listening to his CD collection, on his machine), was concerned
with pleasing Melinda musically (‘he was like, whatever I wanted, he was
just like “Sure”’). Melinda persuades him, for example, to change the
music when it seems ‘wrong’. She refers to Enya as ‘chick music’ because
she perceives it as a generic form of seduction music within the university
scene. She rejects Stigma and Hyper, previously cued up (‘we were like,
“No no no, we don’t want that!”’) in favour of a ‘love song’ from the First
Night soundtrack (‘I had him play the First Night soundtrack, which I
love’). She also then rejects a louder and energetic number (‘and I’m like,
‘No, no, this is not good’) that was characterized, as she illustrates by
bursting into song in the interview, by a ‘fanfare’ figure (not relaxed,
calming or beautiful, but public, militaristic, energized).
Given that Melinda and her friend are students, the material-cultural
settings of their domestic lives are somewhat constrained. Confined to
one room with only basic furnishings, some candles, posters and the like,
music is one of the few available materials for altering and specifying the
scenes in which their encounters occur. It is a way of establishing a sense
112 Music as a device of social ordering